Ammon Eric Gustafson
November 5, 1967 – September 17, 2011
When Ammon’s family moved into our ward, we were both deacons. I still remember the Sunday he came into our classroom because, for a typically quiet person like me, I was uncommonly outgoing in welcoming him. We hit it off immediately. I remember how my mom used to visit with people after church, and we kids would grumble impatiently in the car for what seemed like hours until she was ready to take us home. But it wasn’t long until the family was waiting for me because Ammon and I were so engaged talking about Dungeons & Dragons, Atari, and whatever else interested young teenagers back in 1980.
As we sat together on the front pew at church to pass the sacrament, I thought it was totally cool that Ammon could sing the bass part of the hymns. That any deacon could sing bass is impressive by itself, but his ability to sing harmony sparked my own musical interest.
I also remember Ammon being an especially fluent reader of the scriptures. While the rest of us would stumble over unfamiliar language in quorum meetings, he read like someone who did so often. I don’t remember ever talking with him about that specifically, but I’m pretty sure there was some out-loud scripture reading going on at the Gustafsons’.
Singing together in church eventually led to singing together in the high school men’s glee. Glee was a pretty humble affair, meeting early before school, and although led by Mr. Anderson, the school choir teacher, it only ever achieved semi-official standing. It was, however, strongly supported by Ms. Coburn, the drama teacher. She needed somewhere to send the boys so we’d be able to carry a tune when the musical came around each spring. One of those musicals was The Pirates of Penzance in which Ammon and I both got to do dual-roles: as pirates in the first act, then switching sides to become the pirate-battling cops in the second act.
The other product of men’s glee was a quartet that Ammon and I formed along with Steve Heron and Alan Packer. While we eventually became the not-so-world-famous “Sparkling Whiners”, the group started out Christmas Caroling. As I recall, we had invited all of men’s glee to come, but only the four of us ended up going that night. Fortunately, we had all the parts covered.
The odd thing about that particular caroling excursion was that although we sang up and down the street in fantastic four-part harmony, the only house we actually stopped at was Mandy Johnson’s, a girl that at least 3/4 of the quartet had a crush on at one time or another. Because aside from praising God, certainly one of the best uses of music is wooing women.
One day at school we barged into Steve’s girlfriend’s French class to serenade her with Angels We Have Heard on High. The teacher kindly didn’t throw us right out, probably because with Alan’s tutoring, we sang it in the original French. We also invited girls to dances with modified lyrics to some of our songs, and what girl could resist something like that?
Ammon was also very smart. He was doing math as a high school sophomore that I wouldn’t see until well into my computer science coursework at BYU. Because of his academic success, I found it funny a few years later when he confessed, in a letter, to getting a ‘C’ in physics at Stanford: “I was so depressed when I saw that ‘C’; I haven’t had one of those since 5th grade, and that was in handwriting.”
While college took us in different directions, missions brought us back together again. We both happened to be called to São Paulo, Brazil, though I was in the north mission while he served in the south. We had schemes of meeting in the Praça da República to party at some point, but of course, being good missionaries, had to settle for seeing each other at combined mission conferences a couple of times.
In the years since, we had occasional letters, phone calls and meetings. As I serve my third stint as ward choir director, I still feel the life-shaping influence of Ammon’s friendship, and those days singing How Firm a Foundation together on the front row of the chapel.
What wonderful memoirie! All of the Gustafson are great people that we all have been blessed to know.
Thanks for sharing this part of your life.
Love,
Mom
I’ll be in Portland Thursday, Sep. 22 – Saturday, Sep. 24 to attend Ammon’s funeral.
A wonderful tribute to a wonderful man.
These stories and pictures brought a smile to my face. Thanks for sharing your memories.
-Ammon’s sister Rachel
Hi, Eric. Shelli forwarded this to me to read. I also remember those times fondly and ponder Ammon’s same talented traits you mentioned. I particularly remember watching Monty Python’s Holy Grail at your house and the laughs there. Thanks for the loving tribute. Rebekah
Thank you for giving me a better picture of my Dad’s youth. It has always been very vague with a few hot pixels throughout. This entry made me laugh and smile! The pictures were the perfect touch, and I feel gladness in knowing that my Dad lived a very fun and adventurous life, even before I knew him!
Thanks again!
Delaney Gustafson
It’s always a shock to lose a good friend, especially one so young. It sounds like you had some great times together and it is always nice to recall those times. Unfortunately it happens more and more as you get older. I’ll look forward to seeing you while you are in town.
Dad
Thank you so much for posting this! It is so fun to see glimpses from his life. He was always stalwart and an over-achiever! As his cousins, we could sense the “awesomeness” of he and his siblings when we met for family gatherings sprinkled over the years. Our geographical distance prevented us all from being close, but we always knew we were missing out on getting to know them better! Thank you for showing us our cousin!! Me and my husband are so sad that he was taken so young and will pay our respects at the funeral as well!
Eric, thanks so much for this great tribute. Ammon was a rare individual…smart, funny, kind, and talented. I think he may have been the nicest person I’ve ever known. I know you two were very close. I am holding you and the Gustafson family in my thoughts and prayers.
OH! And I still have my Sparkling Whiners business card.
Nice post, Eric. Beautiful sentiments, beautifully written.
Love,
your sis
I love it, Eric. I’ve been wondering where I could rustle up some Ammon memorabilia, and this is a treasure trove. I have my 7-year-old memories of Ammon back then, but it’s nice to hear memories from a friend of his. I’m glad I’ll get to see you on Friday.
Thanks Eric for this wonderful tribute. I loved seeing the pictures and hearing the stories of Ammon’s youth. I met the Gustafson family when they moved here to Portland, OR. Ammon sat behind me in our ward choir and I turned around to see who was singing. What an amazingly clear, smooth voice. Shelli, an amazing alto, was sitting next to me, I told her, “Wow, all this harmony in one family.” I felt like I was surrounded by angels. Little did I know the talent just about to burst out of Delaney. They sing with heart, just like they live their lives. What a family!